Breakups are really hard. A study published in the journal of neurophysiology has found that a relationship breakup may feel so painful because it activates the part of the brain associated with motivation, reward and addiction cravings.
Breaking up feels awful and can feel like you’ve been sent on a lonely stint to crazy town. You will feel nothing is right. You will feel unwell physically ,mentally and emotionally. You will feel that you are unworthy but stalking and publicly bringing him/her down will never end well.
You’re going through a major unheaval and your brain and your body will take their own time to adjust and to be okay. Its always okay to not always feel right feel okay. But never feel that you are undeserving for a person or for a thing.
STAGES OF BREAKUP:STAGE 1 : THE EGO COMES ALIVE.
When people are in relationship they make sure the ego doesn’t become bigger than the relationship but once the relationship is over, the ego masks the entirely the entirely of it. People may seems happy ,absolutely fine and loving every ounce of life but they’re usually really broken within. So, the stage of the ego is crucial and important and it helps a man go into his shell, subtly to get over the breakup.
STAGE 2:PERSON BECOMES A SOCIAL ANIMALS
People don’t internalise the trauma at first. They let it seep in and shrug it off, or sweep it under the rug and and try and go through life like nothing happened. Which can be quite disheartening for the woman they were in a relationship with. It’s not like they’re over it or have forgotten all about it, they’re just trying to bring their ego back and socialise as much as they can, to forget their pain.
STAGE 3; REALISATION DAWN SLOWLY
Break up comes from the fact that you all alone and lonely that will impact your state of mind that you will start searching happiness somewhere else and later you will find yourself emotionally weak and alone at that moment. For improving your state of mind people start flirting and distract themselves from the pain they are going through. People don’t really give time for healing. Real healing begins the moment you realise that you really need it.
STAGE4: ANGER AND SADNESS
Now that your stage 3 is over and realised certain things that you were questioning before. You will stop questioning yourself that is really great but you will start blaming the other person for everything happened before. This blaming further lead to lots of anger and later sadness, because you’re confronting something you’ve probably swept under the rug for far too long. It’s actually when you coming to terms with the breakup.
STAGE 5: INITIAL ACCEPTANCE
This is an acceptance of the fact that things are not same with the person how it used to be. That its really over and there’s nothing you can do about it. Because you already tried everything to get them back in your life but nothing changes their decision about the relationship. This is the important stage because in this stage you really want that person back in your life because you have realised certain things, trying internalise the problem. But if that doesn’t work out, you finally begin to accept that it is in fact, finally over.
STAGE6: GAINING THE TRUST AND REDIRECTING HOPE
This stage helps you gain all the loss you have gone through. This phase or stage will help you re-analyse your wants and your needs once again and try and find your way the new journey. You will try moving forward and every step you will take will break the previous tie( bond) and move on to something that is better for you than the one before. It will take a while to gain the trust to do everything all over again. So, it is important to be patient during this stage.
STAGE7: READY TO MOVE ON
This will come after months or can even take years after the first stage. This is the final and most important stage. This stage means you are all ready to move on with the another person or some people are consent alone, unless they really find what they’re really looking for. This stage clears away all the inhibitions and anything else that has stood in the way of getting over the break up, entirely.
These are the important 7 stages of breakup because these are deeply connected to everyone. These 7 stages will help you to come out of the trauma that you are going through. These 7 stages will definitely help you emotionally and mentally to come out of grief.